We all try to do our very best as a parent, and for me, as a grandparent, I was thrilled when I saw Dr. Shefali Tsabary on Super Soul Sunday. Oprah introduced her as the individual shifting the traditional paradigm of parenting. Exposed to Eastern mindfulness at an early age, she integrates its teaching with Western psychology.

So, I looked her up on TedEx, and there she was!  I am so pleased to share this with you.   Global transformation begins here! I encourage you to take a look and share your thoughts with us about what you think. 

Mary Barr Rhodes

Click below to view Dr. Shefali's Ted Ex Video "Conscious Parenting"

by Dorothy Hatic
The old argument that one can get a better education on the “streets”, as opposed to that in a formal education setting, is making a lot of noise again with the question of what millennials bring to the table in the current job market.  It is as much a discussion about the state of our formal education as it is about the “softness” of millennials.  I recently read an article where the author pretty much circumvented the advantages of any effectiveness of post-secondary education for students of today.  It definitely started me thinking about what we, as parents, and our children’s first teachers, can do to make sure our children get what they need to succeed. 

As parents, we want to protect our children from falls that can bring harm to them, either physically or emotionally.  Remember the term, “helicopter parent”, so coined because the parent hovers over the child every waking moment, making sure he is doing the “right thing at the right time” or even admirably, getting all the support he needs to succeed.   Who supports the parent?  And how does a parent navigate the question of what is best for the child?  Is there a right way and wrong way to raise and educate children? 

If I have learned anything from my work with N-One Games, it is that there is no one “right way”. There are many “right ways.”  To be conscious and awake (mindful), means to acknowledge and know that there are at least nine right ways, and believing there is only one right way is a very shallow and limiting perspective. 

Self-observation is key to perspective.  In the articles I read in my workplace, online magazines, I am struck by the suggestions of one “right way.”  In the article on the millennials, I know that the author did not mean to suggest that college was a total waste of time for a young adult.  He did suggest, however, that a young adult could get as meaningful an education, if not a better one, by learning through the school of “hard knocks.”  His stance in his article left me wanting to take immediate exception with him.  As I observed myself trying to defend my own position, I was struck by the very powerful self-observation that I had, once again, allowed myself, to believe that there was only “one right way.”  What was I defending?  And why?  What was I denying?  And why?  Why was I ignoring his perspective and seeing only my own? 

Educating children, at home, in school, socially, spiritually, formally and informally, is serious business.  There is an entire commerce dedicated to the business of teaching us to be parents and, thus, good teachers.  I suspect there are millions of dollars spent both producing and buying materials to raise/rear better children.  Having raised two children myself, I know it took more than a village.  What I did not know then, and what I am trying to suggest to the parent-educator is, that, however the parent raises the child, the most important thing we impart to the child is for the child to know who he is. 

What does that mean, “know who he is?”  It means that we all possess certain strengths and weaknesses.  We all fall asleep to who we are and to our environment sometimes.  We all fail to be the observers of our own actions, while clearly seeing (we believe) what someone else is doing so horribly wrong.  We all tend to defend our own positions without regard to the idea that there is more than one right way.  To know oneself, however, is to be fully awake, and to be the inner observer, catching ourselves when we cease to hear what someone else is saying.  Discernment is necessary for us to make decisions that are best for us.  But judgment is without much merit.  It allows us to see only our one right way, even knowing on some level, that our way is just that…our way.  If we know who we are, and we live each moment present to ourselves, we give that gift of consciousness to our child.  It is not easy.  But if the child learns to know himself because you know yourself, chances are better that he will be more accepting, more compassionate, more loving, more forgiving, more open…happier.  And when he takes those virtues out into the world, whether it is the playground or school, college or the workplace, he brings a great gift to the world. 

Think of education as cumulative.  N-One Games and Conscious Dimensions, LLC are bringing an educational program to parents, trainers, teachers, and young adults, which is based upon the N-One characters.  The nine characters, representing the nine types of the enneagram, are fantasy characters, designed with rich and enriching metaphor, to teach personality type.  This educational program supplements all learning, allowing the child a way to learn about and navigate differences that result in, sometimes unfortunately, behavior that none of us like to see in our young people.  When a student learns to understand personality differences, he learns to accept others, to understand his peers better, and to watch his own reaction to others.  He learns to know himself.  It is enrichment for all.  And we believe it is an important missing piece that engages young people to know first, who they are, and to be open and accepting of others.  It can be brought to the classroom in a school or to a church wishing to incorporate it into a youth program, or to an after school enrichment program.  We can teach teachers, counselors, parents, or youth.  The program is non-threatening because we use art designed to teach personality through a medium most youth enjoy and understand.  We use metaphor and symbols for personality characteristics and archetypes in storylines which personify personality types.  It is story telling that teaches youth about who they are.  We believe it can change individuals, resulting in the rippling effect that changes consciousness. 

Every generation seeks to define itself.  Today’s young people live in a world of fast-changing technology.  They learn differently than we did.  They yearn to know who they are though, just like every generation before them.  They have so much to offer an ever-changing global scene.  N-One Games and Conscious Dimensions, LLC can help you to prepare your children and students for whatever the universe has in store for them.  In the coming shift, no child left behind means more than a primary reading program.  It means we must prepare all our children to understand what they believe separates them from others is really an illusion.  They are not separate.  They know this, and they want to understand how to live globally for a brighter and more sustainable future. 

Contact us.  If you are interested in knowing more about our educational curriculum, either for adults or for youth, contact us.  We will be happy to give you a quick overview of what we have to offer.